The difference between moral dilemmas and ethical ones, philosophers say, is that in moral issues, the choice is between right and wrong. In ethics, the choice is between two rights. Pamela Warrick
There is a new French movie coming soon "Two Days, One Night" that presents an interesting situation that requires a decision that can impact many other people.
The premise is about a woman (with a husband and two young children) who has 16 co-workers in a factory type of job. Each of these workers is struggling in a different way to make ends meet. She is told that if the majority of her co-workers vote to take their bonus, she is out of a job.
As bonus time is approaching, each co-worker is given a choice. They can choose to take their bonus ($1000 EU - approximately $1250) or forgo their bonus. If the majority of co-workers choose to take it, it will mean the woman is laid off.
The woman, feeling so worthless and desperate to keep her job, with her husband's support and encouragement, decides to spend the weekend (2 days, one night) canvassing each co-worker. She tracks them down in their homes, in stores, in the laundromat, wherever she can find them to plead her case. She asks them to please give up their bonus so she can keep her job.
Some are sympathetic and willing to do so. Some are absolutely counting on their bonus and won't even consider her situation. And some are clearly on the fence - they want to help her but they also want their bonus. One believes that if she is allowed to stay, his job will be in jeopardy. Despite being told that the voting is by secret ballot, some are fearful that there will be repercussions if they vote for her to stay and give up their bonus.
A feeling of hopelessness and low self-esteem can stem from a lack of money because society seems to place a higher value on money (and thus a feeling of power) rather than on connection and the human being. Often in relationships, money becomes more important than the relationship. Friendships, marriages, families, business partners, etc. break up because of money.
In thinking about the choice that you would make, it's important to imagine what it's like living close to the poverty level. Money is critical for food, rent, etc. and yet, it could mean that someone you like and have been working with for years is out of a job.
Alternatively, if you are living 'rather' comfortably, you could think of it as a $10,000 bonus that would help towards something such as a car, paying off debt, or a new computer, furniture, etc.
There is no 'right' or 'wrong' decision as to what you might do in a similar situation - it's really an ethical dilemma and a question of your needs and your values.
INVITATION TO EXPERIMENT
Think about various types of situations with high stakes (from the past or upcoming) where you have to make a choice basically between your own personal needs or those of someone else.
--What are some of the things that might influence your decision?
--How (did) do you imagine feeling after your choice?
Very best regards,
marion@lifecoachinggroup.com
(c) 2004-14. All rights reserved. Marion Franklin, www.lifecoachinggroup.com
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